You’re the table.

Stop begging for a seat.

Author

Felipa Costilla
August 11, 2025

Have you ever begged to be chosen?
By a guy? A friend group? That one job, that one “opportunity”?
We all have.

And let’s be real, when you finally got picked, it felt good for a second…
Until you realized you were never being seen, just being used or tolerated.

So let’s clear this up right now:

Being chosen is not the win. Choosing yourself is the power move.

Because when you choose you
When you stop watering dead plants, stop texting first, stop lowering your standards to “make it work”
You don’t just heal.
You glow up in silence.
You rebuild your confidence, your energy, your peace. And you become undeniable.

Let’s stop glorifying being “wanted.”
A man can want you and still play the hell out of you.
A job can want you and still underpay you.
A group can include you and still drain the life out of you.

You deserve more than to be picked. You deserve to be respected, celebrated, and cherished.
By others, yes.
But first, by yourself.

✨ This week, give yourself permission to:

✔ Stop chasing love that doesn’t pour back into you
✔ Say no without guilt
✔ Be the damn standard
✔ Trust that losing people who didn’t see your worth is winning

💬 Try this:

Text yourself like you’re the love of your life.
Seriously. Write:

“I see you, I’m proud of you, and I’ll never leave you hanging again.”

You’ll feel silly, and then you’ll feel free.

💣 A quote for you:

“You’re not hard to love. They were just too weak to hold something real.”

🎧 A song to carry you:

"uh oh" – Tate McRae
For when you want them, but you're not gonna need them. At all.

Girl, stop shrinking to be chosen.
You’re not here to fit in, you’re here to stand the fuck out.

You’re already the prize.

With you always,

Felipa ❤️