You’re Not for Sale.

💌 Dear Woman,

There was a time I was constantly waiting to be chosen. By a man, by a friend group, by the world, I wanted someone to see me and say, “You. I choose you. You’re enough.” I was dressing for approval, talking to please, shrinking to fit, sacrificing what I loved just to be liked a little more. I was convincing, hoping, performing… dying inside.

And then I realized: I was handing over my worth like it was up for debate.

Here’s the truth they don’t tell us: You were never meant to be chosen. You were meant to choose yourself.

You are not a trophy on a shelf waiting for someone to point and pick you. You’re not a backup plan, a second option, a “maybe someday.” You are not here to compete for a man’s attention or convince anyone to stay. You don’t need to “prove your value” to people who can’t see it. That’s not your job. Your job is to know it. Embody it. Live like it.

Because when you’re rooted in your self-worth, you stop auditioning for love.
You stop chasing people who can’t see you.
You stop trying to fix yourself for people who broke you.

The right ones won’t need to be convinced, they’ll recognize you, because they’ve done the work to see themselves too.

And let’s be honest: We’ve all tried too hard for someone at some point. Bent over backward, gave chances we didn’t even believe in, watered ourselves down, overexplained our pain, tried to be the cool girl, the chill girl, the quiet girl all just to be loved. But love that asks you to be less of yourself is not love. It’s control. And you deserve freedom.

You don’t have to be picked to matter. You don’t have to be adored to be worthy. You don’t have to be loved by them to love yourself fiercely. Your softness, your magic, your fire it’s not meant for just anyone. Stop placing it into hands that don’t know how to hold it.

The moment you stop trying to be chosen is the moment your power comes back home.
You stop waiting. You start becoming.
You stop proving. You start honoring.
You stop breaking yourself into smaller pieces. You rise whole.
And let me tell you something else: You are the prize.
The peace. The healing. The growth. The fire and the light.

So this is your reminder, from one woman to another:
Stop trying to be chosen. Choose you. Every single time.
And watch the world shift in your favor.
You were never too much.
You were never not enough.
You were just trying to bloom in a place that couldn’t hold your roots.

Now go water yourself. And rise. 🌹

With love,

Felipa ❤️