When the connection feels off, trust it.

💌 Dear Woman,

Hey love,
Can I check in real quick?

How’s life been lately?
Not the “I’m fine” version, the real one.
Are you okay? Are you exhausted? Are you proud of yourself for how far you’ve come?

And also… do these emails help?
Do they land when you need them?
Do they feel like someone gets it, even just a little?

I hope so.
Because that’s why I write them.
For the days you feel a little too much or not enough.
For the moments you’re in between who you were and who you’re becoming.

Today, I want to talk about something I think a lot of us avoid:
Outgrowing people.

It’s uncomfortable, isn’t it?
That quiet space between love and distance.
When someone who once felt like home just… doesn’t anymore.

Here’s the truth we don’t say enough:
It’s okay to outgrow people.
Even the ones you thought would be forever.
Even the ones who never really hurt you, but can’t meet you where you are anymore.

Growth is messy like that.
It’ll have you craving depth while still clinging to old comfort.
It’ll have you feeling guilty for pulling away, even though deep down, you know you’ve changed.

Have you ever felt yourself shrinking around someone you used to love, just to keep the vibe the same?
Ever stayed too long because it felt easier than explaining why you’re not the same anymore?

Same.

But babe…
You’re not wrong for wanting more.
More clarity. More honesty. More peace.
More real.

And sometimes that means letting go, not because you’re better, but because you’re growing.
And you can’t grow where you’re constantly misunderstood.

You don’t need to keep showing up for people who only remember the older version of you, the one who didn’t have boundaries. The one who said yes to everything. The one who dimmed her light to make others feel more secure.

That version of you? She got you here.
But she doesn’t have to take you further.

You can love people and still choose yourself.
You can miss the memories and still know it’s time to move on.
You can grieve the connection and still feel peace about the distance.

So if something’s been feeling off lately...
If someone who used to feel safe now makes you second-guess your growth...

Ask yourself:
“Do I feel seen here? Or am I just staying loyal to history?”

This chapter of your life is about alignment.
Not attachment.
Not obligation.
Not guilt.

Just truth.
Just peace.
Just your future self whispering, “Keep going.”

You’re allowed to outgrow people.
You’re allowed to want deeper connections.
You’re allowed to want more and not apologize for it.

I’m proud of you for even thinking about this.
And if you needed permission… this is it.

Keep becoming.
Keep choosing you.
The right people will catch up or kindly step aside.

Always with you,

Felipa ❤️