When Obsession Fades, Love Begins.

💌 Dear Woman,

I want to talk a bit about myself so you can understand where I’m coming from.

At the beginning of my relationship, everything felt magical. You know that phase where passion and obsession collide, and you’re convinced you’ve found the perfect person. We were on fire. Always together, always wanting more. It was exciting, intense, almost addictive.

A few months in, we moved in together. Suddenly, we were around each other 24/7. The passion quieted down. The obsession faded. And at first, I thought something was wrong. But it wasn’t. We were just becoming… comfortable. Safe. Real.

The love hadn’t disappeared, it had just shifted. It was no longer about the butterflies, it was about closeness, understanding, and deep emotional presence. But while he was busy with work, I had all this free time. And I started making him the center of my world. I waited for him to finish his work, I waited for him to give me attention, I waited to feel like I mattered again.

Slowly, I started losing myself.
My confidence dropped.
My moods became unstable.
My energy disappeared.

Until one day, I asked myself: When did I stop being my own person?

That question changed everything.
I realized I needed to come back home, to me.

So I did. I started pouring energy into my own growth. I began working out again, not to impress anyone, but to feel powerful in my own skin. I took care of my health, my goals, and my joy. I still loved him deeply, but I learned how to love me just as much.

And funny enough, when I gave both of us space to just be, everything between us started to feel lighter and stronger again. I respected his time and ambition. He respected my independence and evolution.

I realized something important:
When only one person in a relationship is “all in” 99% of the time, it creates imbalance.
Real love needs balance, two whole people choosing each other, not two halves desperately clinging to feel complete.

It needs space, trust, patience, understanding.
And most of all, it needs you to have your own life, even inside the love.

So if you’re reading this and you’ve been losing yourself in someone else, take this as a gentle reminder:
You are not made to orbit around someone.
You are your own sun.

That’s why I decided to start this newsletter.
To help women like you not lose themselves, and also not lose the person who truly loves them.
You can have both: your own life and real love.
And I’m here to remind you of that.

And have a beautiful week❤️

With love,

Felipa ❤️