Too Much? Good.

Let’s have a real talk about feminist.

The moment you say it, someone rolls their eyes, calls you “too much,” or thinks you hate men. But feminism isn’t about hating anyone, it’s about not hating yourself to make everyone else comfortable.

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie said it best: “We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls: you can have ambition, but not too much.”

And that’s exactly what so many of us were taught. Be pretty, polite, soft, small. Don’t intimidate, don’t be loud, don’t take up space.

But babe, you weren’t born to be digestible. You were born to be unforgettable.

💋 The Truth They Never Told You

Being a woman isn’t easy in a world that profits off your insecurity. They sell you perfection while punishing your power. They tell you to be humble when you win and grateful when you’re chosen.

But girl, you don’t need to be chosen, you need to choose yourself.

Feminism isn’t just about equality. It’s about unlearning the bullshit, the self-blame, the apologizing, the “I’m fine” when you’re not. It’s about seeing your softness as strength and your ambition as holy.

You can be feminine and dominant.
You can be kind and assertive.
You can be gentle and unbothered.
You can be everything they told you you couldn’t.

💄 Feminine ≠ Weak

People hear “strong woman” and think “masculine energy.” No babe, being strong in your femininity is the most dangerous kind of power. It’s not loud, it’s magnetic.

True feminine energy doesn’t chase, it attracts. It doesn’t perform, it embodies. It doesn’t beg, it chooses.

So stop toning yourself down to be liked. Stop apologizing for being emotional, opinionated, passionate, or ambitious. That’s your magic, not your flaw.

💌 Permission List

You’re allowed to:

• Take up space without guilt.

• Be bold, loud, and opinionated.

• Want more money, power, love, peace without apology.

• Call yourself a feminist and still love men, heels, and lip gloss.

• Be both soft and savage, babe.

📝 Reflection Prompt

Where are you still shrinking yourself to be liked?
Who benefits from your silence, and what happens when you finally speak?

💬 Quote to Keep in Your Bag

Self-care isn’t what you post, it’s what you practice when no one’s watching.

🎶 Song Rec

“False Alarm” – The Weeknd
Because sometimes, what we call self-care is just a false alarm, another high to avoid sitting with ourselves. The rush, the routine, the illusion of control. This song captures that chaos perfectly.

Being a woman is not a weakness, it’s your power. Feminism isn’t a phase, it’s a reminder: you deserve to exist fully, loudly, and unapologetically.

So the next time someone tells you to tone it down, smile and remind them, you weren’t made to fit in their comfort zone.

You were made to lead, to shine, and to shake the damn room.

Felipa XOXO💌