Timeline? What Timeline?

No deadlines. No rules. Just the life you want now.

Author

Felipa Costilla
October 20, 2025

There’s a grief nobody names.
Not the breakup. Not the friend you lost.
It’s the slow heartbreak of realizing the person you thought you’d be…
isn’t the person standing here now.

You imagined her so clearly:
the job that sounded impressive when people asked,
the relationship that looked good in photos,
the apartment with the skyline view,
the timeline that made everyone nod in approval.

And now you catch your reflection and think: Wait, this isn’t the plan.
That ache in your chest? That’s grief.
Yes, you can grieve a version of yourself.

💡 Why It Cuts So Deep

  • You tied your worth to a schedule that never existed.

  • You believed a plan was an identity.

  • You forgot life isn’t a straight line; it’s a remix.

But those were stories, not laws.
And stories can be rewritten.

🕊️ Stage One: The Funeral

Name Her.
Write down the exact dream: career, partner, lifestyle, even the age you thought it would happen.

Feel It.
Cry, scream, journal, walk. Grief is love with nowhere to go.

Release Her.
Burn the list, tear the page, or just say, Thank you for getting me this far. I set you free.

✨ Stage Two: The Rebirth

This is where the pivot lives.
Here’s the truth I need you to tattoo on your brain:

Focus on now. Do what you want now.
It could be a job, a career change, a new character, a different kind of love.
Whatever it is, pour your energy here, today.
If it’s meant to be, it will lean on you.

Let that sink in. You don’t have to chase the old dream.
You just have to follow the spark that exists this minute.

💪 Practical Moves to Start Today

1. Audit Your Excitement
List everything that lights you up, big or small.
If you feel even a 1% pull, it belongs on the list.

2. Choose a Micro-Action
One email, one class signup, one DM, one outfit that matches the new vibe.
Tiny steps create huge pivots.

3. Build a Now-Routine
Morning walks, reading, strength training, painting, a new side hustle,
anything that feeds today’s version of you, not yesterday’s.

4. Update Your Circle
Tell friends or mentors the new direction.
The right people will hype you up, not hold you to the old script.

5. Celebrate Every Mini-Shift
Every small action proves you are no longer waiting for permission.

🪞 Reflection Prompts

  • “What part of my old dream still inspires me, and what part just weighs me down?”

  • “Where can I choose a tiny action toward who I am now?”

  • “Who or what needs a gentle goodbye so I can move?”

💎 Quote

“You’re not late. You’re on the only timeline that was ever real: your own.”

🎧 Tonight’s Soundtrack

Pitbull & Ne-Yo – “Time of Our Lives” 🎉
Your one-song anthem. Play it loud, dance it out, and remember: the present is the only timeline that matters.

Mourn her.
Thank her.
Then build a life so alive she’d be jealous.

Because the girl you thought you’d be?
She was just the prologue.

You are the plot twist, and the rewrite starts now.

Felipa XOXO💌