They Fear Your Success

Keep the real ones.

Felipa Costilla
October 24, 2025

Did you ever notice that the bigger you get, the smaller some friends act?
It’s wild, but true. The more you rise, the more some people shrink.
Not because they hate you love, not because they’re toxic
but because your glow makes them uncomfortable.

They love the old you. The predictable, agreeable, safe version.
The version that didn’t outshine them.

And suddenly, your promotions, your confidence, your new love, your energy, they feel like a threat.

💡 Why Friends Resist Your Glow

Insecurity: Your growth mirrors what they haven’t done.
Comparison: They measure their worth against your progress.
Comfort Zones: Change in you forces change in them.

Some friends will disappear quietly. Others will try to subtly pull you back.
It’s not personal. It’s primal.

⚡ How to Keep Your Friends (Without Dimming)

Set Emotional Boundaries
- You can celebrate without explaining.
- You can succeed without over-reassuring.
Give Space for Their Feelings
- They might need a moment to adjust.
- Don’t take their resistance as rejection.
Normalize Your Growth
- Make your wins feel like a team victory, not a threat.
Radical Non-Conformity
- Keep doing you, unapologetically.
- Lead by example. Your authenticity will either lift them or filter them out.
Protect Your Energy
- Some friends aren’t meant to follow you to the top.
- And that’s okay. You don’t need them to validate your glow.

🪞 Reflection Prompt

“Who resists my growth, and how can I protect my energy while staying true?”

💎 Quote

“Real friends don’t dim your light, they adjust their eyes to it.”

🎧 Tonight’s Track

Fatal Attraction – Reed Wonder & Aurora Olivas 🔥
Moody, seductive, perfect for owning your glow while navigating shifting friendships.

Your success doesn’t have to cost friendships.
But some friendships will cost your peace.
Keep the ones that stretch, support, and evolve with you.
Let the rest fall quietly away.

You don’t dim for anyone. You rise.

Felipa XOXO💌