Stop Doing This

Hey love,

I know it’s been a minute.

I hope you’ve been okay… really.
I hope life has been soft with you lately, or at least that you’ve been soft with yourself.

I’ve missed this.
And I’ve missed talking to you like this.

And coming back, I didn’t want to just write anything
I wanted to write something that actually helps you in your everyday life.

So let’s talk about something real.

have you ever been in a perfectly good mood…
and then somehow ruined it?

Nothing actually happened.

But suddenly you’re overthinking.
Replaying something.
Feeling off for no real reason.

And now your whole energy shifted.

It’s not random.

You didn’t just “get emotional.”

You triggered your own spiral.

And once you see how it happens,
you can actually stop it.

Let’s be honest about what’s really happening

Most mood drops don’t come from reality.

They come from what you start thinking after.

It usually looks like this:

You remember something small →
you start analyzing it →
you add meaning to it →
you assume the worst →
your mood drops.

All of that… from one thought.

This is how you ruin your own mood (without noticing)

You go from:

• “that was a bit weird”

to:

• “why did they act like that?”

• “did I do something wrong?”

• “what if they don’t like me?”

And now your body reacts like something bad actually happened.

But nothing did.

Your thoughts created the emotion.

The part most girls don’t realize

Your brain is trying to protect you.

It scans for problems.
It tries to prepare you.
It wants control.

But instead of protecting your peace…
it ends up disturbing it.

Because not every thought deserves your attention.

The moment the spiral starts

It’s always early.

Very small.

Very easy to miss.

It’s that one thought like:

• “That felt off…”

• “Why did they say that?”

• “What if…”

That’s the moment you either:
👉 let it pass
👉 or follow it

If you follow it, you spiral.

If you want to stop ruining your mood, do this

Not perfectly.

Just more consciously.

1. Catch the first thought

Don’t wait until you feel bad.

Notice the start.

That one small shift.

And instead of diving deeper, say:

“I’m not doing this right now.”

You don’t need to solve everything immediately.

2. Separate reality from imagination

Ask yourself:

“What actually happened, and what am I adding?”

Most of the time:

Reality = neutral
Your interpretation = negative

That’s where the mood changes.

3. Move your body, not just your mind

You can’t think your way out of every spiral.

Sometimes you need to:

• get up

• walk

• change environment

• put your phone down

Your body needs to reset, not just your thoughts.

4. Stop checking for reassurance

Overthinking makes you want:

• to text again

• to reread messages

• to analyze tone

But that keeps you stuck.

Peace comes when you stop checking.

Here’s the truth that will change everything

You don’t need to follow every thought you have.

Just because you think it
doesn’t mean it’s important.

Just because you feel it
doesn’t mean it’s true.

If you’ve been ruining your own mood lately,
you’re not dramatic.

You’re just not aware of your patterns yet.

And now you are.

This is part of becoming a woman.

Learning that your peace is not just about what happens to you
it’s about what you allow to stay in your mind.

A woman who protects her energy
doesn’t entertain every thought.

She lets things pass.

And that’s how she stays in her power.

Felipa XOXO💌