Still lonely.

Hey babe 🖤

Have you ever been in a relationship where you’re technically together all the time
but somehow, you still feel alone?

Where he’s next to you…
but his attention is always somewhere else.

On his phone.
In the group chat.
Laughing with his friends.
Living a full emotional life, just not with you.

And when the conversation comes up, he says it casually:
“Friends and family come first.”

And you nod.
Because you don’t want to seem needy.
Because you tell yourself that’s healthy.
Because you don’t want to ask for more than he’s willing to give.

But something in your chest tightens anyway.

Proximity isn’t priority

Read that slowly.

Just because a man is physically present doesn’t mean he’s choosing you.

You can sleep next to someone every night
and still feel emotionally abandoned.

You can spend 24/7 together
and still feel like you’re interrupting his real life.

Because attention matters more than time.
And presence can’t be multitasked.

The quiet imbalance no one talks about

Here’s what usually happens:

He has:

• friends he talks to daily

• outlets that excite him

• space to breathe and disconnect

You have:

• him

• and only him

Not because you don’t love your friends.
But because somewhere along the way,
you centered one person
and let the rest of your world fade into the background.

And now when he pulls away, even slightly
you feel it everywhere.

That’s not neediness.
That’s emotional over-investment without return.

Why his attention never really lands

Even when he gives you attention, it feels… hollow.

Because it’s:

• inconsistent

• reactive

• squeezed in between messages

Your body knows when attention is offered
versus when it’s leftover.

And love that feels like crumbs
will never satisfy a woman who wants depth.

The truth that stings (but sets you free)

Some men don’t build their lives around one person.
They value independence, freedom, and brotherhood more than emotional fusion.

That doesn’t make them bad men.

But if you’re the kind of woman who:

• loves deeply

• bonds fully

• prioritizes intentionally

This dynamic will slowly drain you.

Different attachment styles sound harmless
until you’re the one shrinking
just to stay connected.

What choosing yourself actually looks like

Choosing yourself doesn’t mean drama.
It doesn’t mean ultimatums.

It means:

• rebuilding your own world

• reconnecting with your friends

• becoming less available

• letting silence exist

• pouring energy where it’s returned

Not to punish him.
Not to make him chase.

But because love should add to your life, not replace it.

Permission slip (take it)

You are allowed to:

• want to be emotionally prioritized

• feel hurt even if “nothing is technically wrong”

• stop centering someone who doesn’t center you

• leave relationships that feel lonely

• choose peace over attachment

You’re not asking for too much.

You’re just asking the wrong dynamic to change.

Remember this

And a man who truly wants you
won’t make you feel like you’re asking for space in his life.

Song of the week: Tate McRae – “Greedy”
Because wanting more isn’t toxic.
Settling is.

Stay dangerous, babe.

Felipa XOXO💌