Not Every Energy Deserves Access to You

Hey babe,

You ever walk into a room and instantly feel different?
Like you were fine two seconds ago and now you’re heavy, irritated, low-key anxious for no reason?

That’s not “overreacting.”
That’s your nervous system picking up on energy that isn’t yours.
And if you’re not careful, you’ll start carrying other people’s moods like an emotional tote bag stuffed with shit you didn’t even buy.

I used to be that girl.
I’d feel someone’s tension and immediately go into fix-it mode.
If a friend was sad, I’d spiral with her.
If someone was mad, I’d walk on eggshells.
If a coworker was stressed, suddenly I was stressed.

It was exhausting.
Worse, it wasn’t even my life I was reacting to. It was theirs.

The Truth Is:
You can’t control other people’s energy.
But you can control what gets in and what stays out.

Meditation was my game-changer here.
Not the candles-and-incense kind (though I love that vibe).
The kind where I learned to stay rooted even when the room was shaking.
The kind where I could sit across from someone whose mood was loud, and still feel like I was wrapped in my own private, untouchable bubble.

How Meditation Made Me Energetically Bulletproof:

• I notice without absorbing. I can clock someone’s heaviness without carrying it on my back.

• I respond from my center. No more being dragged into their emotional current. I stand still and let the wave pass.

• I own my mood. If I woke up peaceful, I’m not handing that over just because someone else didn’t.

• I mastered the pause. Not every energy shift needs my reaction, some just need my detachment.

• I keep my bubble intact. My peace is my aura, and it’s not up for negotiation.

Here’s What I Do Now When Someone’s Energy Feels Heavy:

1. Ground before I enter the room. A few slow breaths, a mental reminder: I’m safe. I’m steady. I’m not here to take on anything that isn’t mine.

2. Breathe before I absorb. I feel the shift, acknowledge it, and let it pass like background noise.

3. Keep my responses minimal. I don’t feed the fire, I keep my words light, my energy lighter.

4. Leave if I need to. My peace is more important than their approval.

5. Meditate after. Even 5 minutes resets me back to myself.

And now here’s How to Meditate (No Guru Required):

I’m not gonna tell you to sit on a mountaintop with crystals (unless you want to). Meditation can be simple, sexy, and completely doable, even if you’ve never done it before.

Step 1 – Sit Your Ass Down
Somewhere quiet. Bed, couch, floor, whatever. Back straight but not stiff. No need for pretzel legs unless that’s your thing.

Step 2 – Close Your Eyes & Breathe Like You Mean It
Inhale slow through your nose for 4 seconds.
Hold for 2.
Exhale slow through your mouth for 6 seconds.
Repeat. Let your shoulders drop like you’re setting down a heavy bag.

Step 3 – Let the Thoughts Come (But Don’t RSVP)
Your mind will wander, that’s fine. See the thought, don’t judge it, and imagine it floating away like a balloon. You’re not here to kill your thoughts, you’re here to stop getting dragged by them.

Step 4 – Bring It Back to the Breath
Every time you drift, return to your inhale. That’s your anchor. That’s home.

Step 5 – Stay for 5 Minutes (Minimum)
Set a timer. Don’t peek. Let yourself just be. No checking your phone, no planning your grocery list, no rehearsing that fight in your head.

Bonus: If someone’s energy is heavy, picture a glowing shield around you as you breathe. Their vibe hits it, and bounces right off.

Permission Slip:

• Leave other people’s energy where it belongs, with them

• Protect your inner world like it’s your designer bag

• Say no without explaining

• Be present without being pulled in

• Stay grounded even if everyone else is up in the air

Reflection Prompt:
What would your life feel like if you only carried your emotions and not everyone else’s?

Quote:
"You don’t have to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm."

Song Rec:
"After Dark" – Mr. Kitty
Dark, hypnotic, bad-bitch energy like gliding through chaos untouched.

And babe listen
From now on, stop letting people’s bad vibes rent space in your head.
You are not an emotional sponge. You are not a rescue mission. You are not their safe place to dump all the shit they don’t want to deal with.
You’re a whole universe, and not everyone gets a passport.

Protect your energy like it’s your body, because it is.
And the next time someone’s storm tries to knock on your door, remember this:
You can love them from a distance, but you’re not stepping outside without your crown.

Felipa XOXO💌