listen bitch, loyalty has limits

Hey babe,

We need to have a real conversation about loyalty because I'm seeing too many of you out here giving your whole heart to people who wouldn't even give you a Band-Aid when you're bleeding.

STOP. BEING. LOYAL. TO. PEOPLE. WHO. AREN'T. LOYAL. TO. YOU.

The Tea on Loyalty ☕

Loyalty isn't just about relationships, hunny. It's about how loyal you are to YOURSELF first, the energy you're putting into friendships, what you're accepting in romantic relationships, and the standards you set.

Here's the thing nobody talks about: You can be loyal without being stupid.

When Loyalty Becomes Toxic 🚩

Real talk time: You know that friend who only calls when she needs something? That partner who expects your loyalty but can't even remember your birthday?

Signs you're giving toxic loyalty:

• You make excuses for their bad behavior

• You're always the one reaching out first

• They disappear when you need support

• You feel drained after spending time with them

Girl, loyalty without reciprocity is just you being used. Period.

Self-Loyalty Revolution ✨

Before we talk about being loyal to others, let's talk about the most important loyalty of all - being loyal to YOURSELF.

Self-loyalty looks like:

• Not compromising your values to keep someone happy

• Setting boundaries and actually enforcing them

• Walking away when you're not being treated right

• Choosing your peace over other people's comfort

Real Loyalty in Friendships 👯‍♀️

Your girls should be your safe space, not your stress space. Real loyal friendships have celebrating your wins without jealousy, being honest even when it's uncomfortable, and showing up during your low moments.

Red flags: Only supportive when it benefits them, competitive instead of collaborative, and making everything about them.

Loyalty in Love 💕

Listen babe, loyalty in relationships is beautiful, but it's not about losing yourself in someone else.

Healthy relationship loyalty means you're both equally invested, trust goes both ways, and you feel secure, not anxious.

Toxic loyalty red flags: "Loyalty" being used to control you, being expected to accept disrespect, and staying in situations that damage your mental health.

Your Loyalty Challenge 🧹

This week:

1. Audit your circle - Does the loyalty flow both ways?

2. Check your boundaries - Are you saying yes when you mean no?

3. Practice self-loyalty - Make one decision that prioritizes YOUR wellbeing

Your Loyalty Mantras 🔥

"I am loyal to people who earn it, not people who expect it."

"My loyalty to myself comes first, always."

"I deserve the same energy I give."

🎵 Song of the week 🎧
“Renegade” - Aaryan Shah
You crave the fire, even when it burns you.

You are not required to be loyal to people who don't respect your boundaries, take advantage of your kindness, or treat loyalty like a one-way street.

You teach people how to treat you by what you accept. Stop accepting crumbs and start demanding the whole meal.

You are worthy of loyal, genuine, reciprocal love. Don't you dare settle for less.

Always with you,

P.S. Forward this to that friend who needs to hear it. You know the one. 💕

P.P.S. Girl, if this newsletter hit you in the feels, you NEED to check how healthy your current relationships actually are. I found this quiz that'll give you the brutal honest truth about where you stand - and trust me, the results might shock you. Take it now: shereflects.com/relationshiphealthtest

Felipa XOXO💌