Ghosts & Games🎮

Dating right now feels like emotional dodgeball.
You open your heart, you meet someone new, it feels promising… and then suddenly they “get busy,” start texting less, and vanish like nothing ever happened.

And you sit there replaying everything, asking yourself, “What did I do wrong?”

it’s not you.
You didn’t scare them off by being too much. You just asked for something real in a generation obsessed with pretending.

We live in an era where connection is a game, effort is optional, and vulnerability is treated like weakness.
Everyone wants love, but no one wants accountability. Everyone wants to be desired, but few want to be devoted.

But you babe? You’re built differently. You’re not here for crumbs. You’re not here to chase people who can’t even meet you halfway.

You want consistency, peace, and presence.
And you can’t attract that while you’re accepting half-hearted effort from people who only show up when it’s convenient.

🖤 Here’s how to take your power back:

1. Stop settling for almosts.
If it’s unclear, it’s not real.
If it makes you anxious, it’s not aligned.
Stop giving energy to someone who makes you question if you matter. You deserve to feel chosen, not confused.

2. Hold your silence like a queen.
Not everyone deserves a reaction, a text back, or an explanation.
Sometimes silence is your loudest boundary.

3. Heal your fantasy.
You don’t fall for people, you fall for the potential you build in your head.
Start seeing people for who they are, not who you hope they’ll become.

4. Relearn patience.
The right connection doesn’t rush. It builds. It feels safe. It feels steady.
If you’re constantly guessing where you stand, it’s not love, it’s emotional gambling.

5. Raise your standard, not your volume.
You don’t need to prove your worth to anyone.
When someone’s meant for you, they’ll match your energy without being told how.

Love doesn’t always look like a movie. Sometimes it’s quiet, mature, grounded, no chaos, no guessing, no begging.
That’s what you’re growing into: a woman who doesn’t chase attention, because she is attention.

You’re not asking for too much. You’re asking people to rise higher, and that’s something most can’t handle. But the right one will.

So stop performing softness for people who haven’t earned it.
Let your peace be expensive. Let your heart be sacred. Let your energy cost something.

Because when you move like the prize, you attract people who know how to treat one.

💬 Quote

“You can’t build connection where commitment doesn’t live.”

💎 Reflection Prompt

“What version of you keeps chasing what hurts, and what would happen if you stopped settling and started believing you deserve more?”

🎧 Song
“Trust Issues” – Drake
Because the more you heal, the less you tolerate inconsistency disguised as love.

One day, you’ll look back and realize that being ignored was protection, not rejection.
That walking away was power, not pain.
And that holding your standard wasn’t loneliness, it was alignment.

Don’t water yourself down to fit someone’s emotional capacity.
If they can’t meet you there, leave them behind.
Your peace will always be worth more than their potential.

Felipa XOXO💌