Fear? Use It.

Hey babe 🖤

I was lying in bed at 2 a.m., staring at the ceiling, replaying every conversation from the week. You know, the usual: “Did I say too much? Did I text too soon? Did they notice I’m a mess?” And my brain? Oh, it would not shut the hell up.

That’s when I realized: my mind isn’t broken. It’s dramatic. It’s loud. It’s obsessed. And honestly? That’s fine. Because chaos is proof you’re awake, aware, and alive. The problem is thinking you have to let it run your life.

🔥 Brutal Truth

• Overthinking isn’t weakness. It’s proof you notice things others ignore. You care. You see. You feel. Stop apologizing for that.

• Your brain lies sometimes. “They don’t care. You’re failing. You’re too much.” Yeah, nope. That’s fear dressed as fact.

• Spirals aren’t chaos, they’re fuel. If you channel them, they’ll make you sharper, smarter, faster. If you let them run wild, you’ll spiral forever.

• You control the noise. Meditation, journaling, boundaries, silence, your brain doesn’t get the keys unless you hand them over.

🛠 How To Deal With It

1. Name the spiral.
“Oh, that’s anxiety talking.” Giving it a label takes its power away.

2. Give it a timer.
15 minutes max. After that? End the spiral. Walk away, move your body, do literally anything else.

3. Dump it all on paper.
“What if they don’t care?” “What if I fail?” “What if I said too much?” Write it down. Seeing it outside your head kills 90% of the drama.

4. Question the thoughts.
Ask: Is this true? Or is it fear playing dress-up? Fact-check your brain, babe. It lies sometimes.

5. Move.
Dance, run, punch a pillow, scream into the void. Chaos dies when your body takes charge.

6. Control your input.
Stop scrolling toxic energy. Stop listening to drama. Protect your mind like it’s a crown, because it is.

7. Mental checkpoints.
Before you text, overthink, or obsess, ask: Does this serve me? Or feed the spiral? Only act if it serves.

💡 Mini Story

Last week, I caught myself spiraling over some texts. My brain was screaming: “They don’t care. You’re too much. You said too much.” Normal overthinker stuff, right? But instead of letting it eat me alive, I grabbed my notebook, wrote every ridiculous thought, and called it what it was: drama disguised as reality.

Then I asked the one question that shuts spirals down: Does obsessing over this actually change anything?

Answer: Nope.

So I put my phone down, hit a playlist loud, and let the chaos fuel me instead of control me. My thoughts didn’t disappear, but I did. I moved. I worked. I laughed. I reminded myself: I’m the one steering this ship, not my brain. Not anyone else. Me.

Babe, that’s the trick. Spirals will happen. But you don’t have to live in them. You own the chaos, or it owns you.

🎧 Song of the week

• Halsey – “Not Afraid Anymore” 
  → Fearless energy, standing in the storm.

Your mind isn’t your enemy. It’s loud, dramatic, stubborn, and occasionally terrifying. You? You’re the main character. You hold the megaphone.

Spin the chaos into clarity. Lead your thoughts instead of letting them lead you. Stop apologizing for thinking too much. Stop shrinking for anyone who can’t handle your intensity.

Felipa XOXO💌