Be good to yourself, not for them.

💌 Dear Woman,

From the moment you could walk and talk, the world handed you a script:
Be nice.
Be quiet.
Be pretty.
Be good.

But who wrote that script? And why did you believe you had to follow it?

The “Good Girl” myth is one of the most persistent and limiting roles ever written for women. She’s praised for being obedient, selfless, and agreeable. She never makes waves, never says no, never wants too much. She keeps everyone else comfortable, even when it costs her everything.

Have you ever silenced your truth just to be accepted?
How many times have you abandoned yourself to make others feel safe?

This myth is not just a harmless label. It’s a mold designed to keep women small, silent, and endlessly striving for approval. And the reward? Conditional love, burnout, and a life lived for others.

Is that the life you want to keep choosing?
What would your life look like if you stopped performing and started being?

Let’s get clear:
The “Good Girl” is not real.
She’s a construct.
And she was never meant to hold your power.
You were not born to be good. You were born to be whole.

What parts of yourself have you hidden to keep her intact?

Whole includes: loud, soft, bold, unsure, angry, assertive, joyful, messy, healing, dreaming, choosing yourself again and again.

Which parts of your wholeness have you been taught to fear?
And what if none of it is “too much” just beautifully yours?

If you want to be good, be good for yourself.
Be kind to your own voice. Be loyal to your needs. Be true to your heart.

When was the last time you asked yourself: what do I need?

Let your goodness nourish you, not just everyone else.
You get to set boundaries.
You get to say no without guilt.
You get to be ambitious, outspoken, and complex.
You don’t owe the world your silence just to be seen as “good.”

What would shift in your life if you stopped shrinking?
Are you ready to choose freedom over approval?

So here’s your permission, though you never needed it:
Outgrow her.
Retire her.
Rewrite yourself.

Let the “Good Girl” go.

And in her place, let the true you rise.

The questions it’s for you to answer, to get to know yourself better. Answer them to yourself or even if you feel like you want to share your answers I’m here to go through this together.

With you always,

Felipa ❤️