Am I really hard to love?

💌 Dear Woman,

Let’s be honest.

You’ve probably asked yourself at least once:
“Am I hard to love?”
Maybe it came after being ghosted.
Maybe after another situationship ended in confusion.
Maybe after someone told you, directly or indirectly, that you expect too much.

And slowly, you started wondering if your feelings were just… too loud.
If your standards were the problem.
If maybe love was easier for women who didn’t care as much.

But listen, caring deeply is not a flaw.
Wanting consistency is not too much.
Asking for clarity isn’t dramatic.
Being emotionally aware doesn’t make you needy.
It makes you honest.

But listen closely,

You are not hard to love.
You are just tired of being misunderstood.
You’re tired of mixed signals.
Tired of feeling like you have to beg for basics.
Tired of being told to “relax” when all you did was express how you feel.

You’ve been told to tone it down,
your feelings, your voice, your heart.
You’ve been trained to second-guess your own needs.
To settle for breadcrumb affection.
To believe that being chosen means staying silent. (that’s totally not true btw)

But here's a better question:
Why should love require you to abandon yourself?

Being treated like you don’t matter should never feel normal.
You don’t need to be “low-maintenance” to be lovable.
You don’t need to keep proving that you’re “worth it.”

The right love will not confuse you.
It will not exhaust you.
It will not punish you for having a heart.

And hell no you don’t need to become easier to handle.
You just need someone who doesn’t flinch at your depth.
Who meets it. Matches it. Holds it. Honors it.

So next time you start wondering if you're hard to love,
ask yourself this instead:

Do I really want to be loved by someone who can't hold my truth?
Or am I ready for the kind of love that doesn’t ask me to shrink?

Because you’re not too much.
You’re just done pretending you’re less.

And that’s a good thing.

That’s My Routine Whenever I Feel Like I’m Drowning💪✨

To help you start shifting your energy and stop blaming yourself, try these simple but powerful steps:

1. Journal This: Write down three qualities you love about yourself. Be honest and kind, no modesty here.

2. Set a Boundary: Say “no” to one thing this week that drains your energy or makes you feel small. Protect your space.

3. Celebrate Your Emotions: When you feel “too much,” pause and say, “This is who I am. This is okay.” Feel it fully without judgment.

4. Say It Out Loud: Tell yourself, “I am lovable just as I am.” Repeat it whenever self-doubt creeps in.

5. Do One Thing Just for You: Something small that nourishes your soul - a walk, a favorite song, a bubble bath. Choose YOU today.

Remember: You’re not the problem. You’re the answer. Your love for yourself is the foundation everything else grows from.

I’m with you girl!

Felipa ❤️